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The shocking revelations of #MeToo

Responding to #MeToo

Ever since the Harry Weinstein scandal broke news, I’ve been thinking about this creep. Obviously many people have been thinking about it because it sparked off #MeToo a social media campaign inviting people who have experienced sexual harassment/abuse at the work place to be vocal about it.

Over the past few days, Social Media has been a flood with #MeToo. This was a uninhibited response the call to draw awareness to the widespread prevalence of sexual harassment.

Especially in the workplace .

Everyone knows the story of Harry Weinstein and the sexual abuse he’s been accused of. Everyone knows the Perils is the Casting Couch. Everyone also knows about Gender Discrimination and the slights, jibes and harassment that working women face.

But what shocked me was the number of women I personally know who faced these issues too. I was aware of the hassles they faced as working women but what I didn’t know was that they were sexually abused too.

Which makes question what constitutes ‘Sexual Harassment?’

Would a mere harmless endearment like ‘sweetie’ be construed as harassment? Derogatory? Patronising?

A literal pat on the back for a job well done?

A commiserating hug by a colleague/boss of the opposite sex?

A playful teasing remark that is not job related ?

Or would asking a woman employee ( whose job description doesn’t require her to) to fetch you some coffee?

Or admiring her new haircut/outfit/look and telling her so? Is it Leacherous? Poor taste?

Yelling at some one for a job badly done Is humiliating but is it abuse?

Publicly upbraiding someone ? Insulting?

An actor friend of mine once told me that the Casting Couch is a real and present danger and she opted of her high flying career out only because she didn’t want to succeed at any cost.

Of course I don’t condone the behaviour of Harry Weinstein. Nor do I feel that people in power should abuse their position and harass those who can be harassed.

What I really want to know about all those people who hashtagged #MeToo was how seriously damaging was the abuse they faced? Was it life changing? Was it irreparable? Was it unpardonable?

Funnily enough, most people I spoke to thought it a bit odd that so many women who were groped by Harry took so long to talk about it . Of course we don’t forgive his behaviour but why were the victims silent ? Some of them were definitely strong enough to say NO !

Once again I reiterate that I don’t mean to undermine the suffering of those who have faced abuse. Nor do I pardon/absolve the abusers of this offensive and disgusting behaviour.

So with due apologies I sign off

6 thoughts on “The shocking revelations of #MeToo

  1. I would guess that offensive, sexually explicit comments would fall under the category of sexual harassment. So many of us have experienced that. Sexual harassment and sexual violence are a world wide problem.

  2. I am seeing this on social media nowadays. I salute to them and you too raising voice against the sexual harassment that’s faced by every woman i think.

  3. It takes a VERY strong woman to come out and say I have been sexually harassed by my boss. 99.9% of workspaces will react with increduility, forcing the woman to prove she was rather than asking the man to prove he didnt! Things happen behind closed doors – how does one prove it? HR personnel shy away from the resumes of women who do complain as they are now viewed as “troublesome”. This is just the tip of the iceberg. It goes much deeper that this. Companies see which one out of the two is more valuable in the hierachy; usually the women are juniors who can be let go!
    Now tell me – how will a woman have the guts to do this? Compound it with their family/society telling them “dont get into this as this will ruin your reputation”.
    When it happens, its scary and you are so confused and terrified of people finding about it. Or what if they dont believe you!
    Its tough to call out a man as a sexual harasser in any society!
    This is my experience and not just opinion!
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    1. Thanks for sharing such personal thoughts. Of course I completely agree with you …. any kind of exploitation is despicable and the onus of proving innocence is always on the woman. As you mention , it is social mores that have allowed such things to continue. But do you think they will stop?

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