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Motherhood Mania #MondayMusings

Oh No ! It’s Mother’s Day again. It’s only the beginning of the week but there is already a blitz of events planned for this Sunday.

Another overhyped , commercialised , Archie’s Card and Hallmark day where every establishment worth its brand will offer attractive schemes to lure people to part with their money. All with alleged intention of honouring your mom. Your poor, selfless, unconditionally loving , all forgiving , uncomplaining , self sacrificing mother . The one who carried you for 9 months,laboured for hours as you made your way into the world, slaved over you , pampered you and indulged you …..

Yet have you forgotten how she embarrassed you in front of your friends? How she refused to let you go for a holiday with your best friend when you were all of 20 ? How she still asks you now at age 60 when you’ll be back and wants to know where you’re going ?

As a mother , let me assure you that even if I speak only for myself, Mother’s Day is a whole lot of poppycock.

In fact one of my dear friends told me once that if there was an internship for motherhood, none of us would take up the job !

I happened to stumble into motherhood, much the same way as I stumbled into most things in my life.

And as with most things, I loved what I stumbled into . As a mother of two marvellous young mothers and granny to three adorable munchkins I have no regrets at all in becoming a mum. I can honestly say that I’d have had it no other way.

I love the way the little ones look at me with complete faith and awe. But hey! I’m just an ordinary mum doing an ordinary job.

There has been no sacrifice on my part. There has been no hard labour . Of course there has been effort and love , but that’s only normal isn’t it ? Every mother does it!

So spare me the platitudes, the praises and the accolades. Don’t flood my phone with cheesy WhatsApp messages or ‘cute’ cartoons.

I don’t want specially discounted, carefully curated meals. Nor do I want bouquets and flowers.

Motherhood is over rated as is Mother’s Day.

But to those of you who celebrate Mother’s Day – Happy Mother’s Day to you .

May this coming Sunday be blessed . May you enjoy the company of your loved ones.

Sharing these thoughts with Corinne who hosts #MondayMusings at Everydaygyaan.

Ciao

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Author: Bellybytes

Proud Mumbai gal who always sees the humour in life. The mum who made banana fritters when all the other mums made cupcakes.

13 Comments on “Motherhood Mania #MondayMusings

  1. Celebrating Mother’s Day can either be a cheap commercial process or a deeply emotional family celebration! It’s our choice how we see it and how we celebrate it!

    In my family we’ve done both. Now, we celebrate it as a way of honoring the people who have made sacrifices for their families. This means that that my daughter and I honor each other deeply and with much love. Unfortunately this doesn’t include my mother who abused me and tried to hurt my daughter.

    Yesterday marks 5 years remission for my 6 year old granddaughter. She passed her scans and tests with flying colors. A week before mother’s day, so we have much to be thankful for!

    On Saturday my daughter and I will be getting our hair cut. We made a promise years ago that if a successful 5 year milestone was achieved we’d donate our hair to nonprofits who make wigs!

    We don’t need a special day to honor each other for all we’ve done for our families, but it is lovely to have a day where we’re recognized and other people pause to remember mothers! We usually plan something special and get the kids involved to do artwork!

    This year I took the kids shopping and we searched for something that we could personalize with the kids handprints. We found a shabby-chic entryway board and coat hook piece with painted calligraphy “Welcome to our home!” Which had spaces in between the hooks for the three kids to put painted handprints. We placed their both hands in a fashion that the empty space between showed a heart shape where I painted in pretty hearts.

    The shopping trip was a lesson for the kids in shopping for gifts that are meaningful to the recipient and not just some knickknack grabbed off a store shelf because it has the expected message printed on it! “Mom…!”

    I believe that we can use any commercial day and transform it into something meaningful if we choose to! It all goes to the efforts we choose!

    My daughter has chosen a DNA test kit for me. Her father was adopted so she has many questions about her heritage. Her boyfriend gifted her with such a kit at Christmas, and while she has had some questions answered it brought up more. By my doing the test, we’ll get more answers. Unfortunately she can’t ask her father to take a test ast he passed away fro complications from his cancer right after the baby got her all clear after her second cancer, which had been a stage 4.

    As you can see, we’ve all been through a lot as a family, so now we treasure opportunities to honor each other. We choose not to see the commercialism of such holidays but to focus on each other!

    Life is fleeting and can be fragile. Let’s honor those who have helped us through our difficult times!

    Like myself, there are many who have been abused by their mothers and who don’t feel comfortable with being fake and making shallow praise to people to we’re hurtful. I get that. I usually send my mother a very simple card for any occasion. No hearts and flowers.

    I save my appreciation for the people who have shown love and support, so that becomes a day of honoring people who have given deeply of themselves! My daughter is one of those people so I honor her. She feels the same way about me, so she honors me.

    If anyone has had a mother who has hurt them deeply, why not focus your attentions towards people who have loved deeply?

    If you are that person, take time to honor yourself that day! Honor what you have done! Love yourself deeply and fervently! Make this a personal day! You don’t have to even tell people what you’re doing! Just do it and inhale deeply of the enjoyment!

    Peace to all, Tamara
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  2. I love your attitude. I do feel the same way. I didn’t give up anything. Well, if I did, I got more than I gave. I adore my two children!

    Have fun with all of yours on Sunday!

  3. Yeah, Sunita. Mother’s Day is another one of those days that help sell stuff. I love celebrating the day, of course. But, only with a heart to heart talk with mum, thanking her for all that she did for me and apologising for all that I did to her. No gifts can ever express the love I have for her, and she doesn’t ask or expect it, either.
    Just a heartfelt gratitude for being such an important part of our life and some love is all they look for.
    A Happy Mother’s Day to every mother on earth!
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  4. Okay I differ a bit here in that I love celebrations, of all kinds! So yeah bring on the flowers and the cake, oh and the special offers too for whoever wants them. I for one am not stepping out in the heat.
    I do agree that the money splurge is disgusting. I’ve forbidden the children to buy me gifts, so they’ve been coming to me with requests for handmade paper and other crafty things. I think I mind end up richer by a few bookmarks and photoframes.
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  5. It maybe over rated surely, but yes now as a mother to two young kiddos, I truly appreciate what motherhood actually is. Its no mean feat and it comes with challenges, and difficulties. And probably thats why I feel like pampering my mom, on specific days.
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    1. I’m glad if you pamper your mum and appreciate the trouble she took over you. I appreciate my mom too . And if you get spoiled by your family for being a great mom, enjoy it!

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