Can a woman have it all? A great career + a great marriage + great children? If she is a successful career woman who does have a great marriage and great children , then she must have had great nanny because frankly speaking housekeeping and child rearing are time consuming jobs in themselves and to manage a career on top of these two demanding occupations would mean
a) that you are a super woman or a super manager who happens to delegate responsibilities so well that all aspects of her life are well taken care of or
b) you have a part time job which allows you to be a part time housekeeper and you are a part time mom with your children away in boarding school.
Home makers and career women have had this debate for years with each one thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. While women who have deadlines to meet and companies to run feel that those stay at home moms have a blast , the stay at home moms feel envious of the career women in their power suits and decision making skills. But are these two identities mutually exclusive? Why does it have to be an either/or situation? Can’t a woman have it all?
Indra Nooyi’s comment that a woman can’t have it all is yet another addition to the never ending debate of whether or not a woman can have it all. Some women feel that they can have it all while there are others who feel that it is always a question of either / or. One thing is for sure that all women have, whether they have it all or not, is some measure of guilt.
For those who have it all, there is the guilt of having it all while there are so many women who do not.
For those who don’t have it all, there is the guilt of not exploiting their full potential either as women ( those who have opted not to have children or marriage in pursuit of a career) or their aptitude (those women who’ve opted not to have a career in order to have a marriage and/children).
But the funny thing is that no man feels the guilt. Even a non-traditional husband who stays at home and changes the nappies does not feel guilty for not exploiting his aptitude and potential and the man who reaches the top of the ladder definitely does not feel guilty that he didn’t attend his child’s PTA meeting because he had a business dinner.
So essentially, whether a woman can or cannot have it all doesn’t really matter, what matters is that every woman will have the guilt of being themselves.