Hair or not #IAmCapable

According to me, man may be known by the company he keeps but a woman is known by the hair she wears. 

A long, oily plait means a nerd. 

A short , unruly mop means a tomboy . 

A neat bun is a schoolteacher. 

A short perky bob is a flirt . 

But what is a thick mop of unruly curls make you? 

It made me a Gollywog , a fact not helped by my father’s constant teasing that I was picked up from Ajegule market when we lived in Africa. 

Luckily for me the use of this derogatory word was banned and I was called another name “Indira Gandhi” largely because of my long nose and dour expression. 

But my entire existence has been spent in trying to tame my hair into something more presentable.This was in the days before hair spas and treatments that relaxed your hair and massaged your ego so I had to resort to overnight oiled hair and herbal concoctions to make my hair silky and smooth. 

I must have done something right because one of my neighbours began calling me Demi Moore as I walked around the garden with my oversized glasses till one day Mr M ,the acknowledged rake in our building rolled down his window and leered at me and asked me to accompany him to the Race Course! 

The next day I pulled my hair in an unflattering poly tail when I went for a walk. 

I don’t know why a woman is judged by her hair.

The strangest reaction I got was feel a steer urchin who refused to eat a sandwich I’d given him, preferring to pass it on to someone else. When I asked him why he said because it was non-vegetarian . I was astounded when he told me that my short hair and Western wear made him come to such a conclusion! 

Today after all these years, my hair has become thin and flyaway , peppered with white and grey. I didn’t know how different I looked till a friend from the past remarked ” How different you are! You don’t look like you anymore! ” 

I wondered what she classified me as now.

, “I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

Author: Unishta

A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!


  1. Wonder how would people stereo type me? Given the fact of my shiny looks.
    People are strange.. We live in a world odlf prejudices and judgements.
    However, am glad that down the years u did try new style and did not get branded.

    1. Ah AJ, bald men are supposed to be really MACHO so don’t let that bother you. Besides, it means that you are always well groomed (no straggly locks) and that is a real chick magnet

    1. Thanks for appreciating the post. Perhaps it is a change in your personality – after all you are evolving every day aren’t you?

  2. o yess.. Woman is judged by her. I wonder what do people think of me? I have not so long curly black hair adamant to turn grey real soon.. Stereotyping women is best thing society enjoys doing. Peeking into their lives and commenting about every single decision that woman makes for herself. I hope things change soon.


  3. In the United States, we have a show called “Shark Tank” where entrepreneurs seek an investment in their business – they make the presentation to the “sharks” and hope to become rich one day. Two of the “sharks” are women. Recently, someone pitched a product for unruly hair – it was something that worked well, and the two female sharks were so interested – you could see them and the men reacting to it in totally different ways. Yes, they understood!
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    1. Well if you have great hair you don’t have to worry it’s only when your hair is not perfect that you are “judged”

    1. I don’t think we ever will. We are human after all and slotting people into categories makes it easier for us to ‘understand ‘ them

  4. Just another thing people use to pass judgement on one another about. On a lighter note, this made me think of when I was about eight years old….my mum sometimes put my hair in two pony tails, otherwise it was straight down. When it was in pony tails a couple of the boys would flirt with me and comment about my hair, chase after me, etc. I didn’t really understand boys or flirting or the like, but in hindsight will admit I liked the attention. Now I find it funny that it made a difference to them that my hair was up or down.
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    1. Yes it’s strange what appeals to little boys and little girls. Currently I find that the one thing both my little grandson and grand daughter like doing is tugging at my spectacle cord and trying to choke me in the bargain! ?

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