Turning Point #GuestPost 3

Many young people have their ideas shot down by their elders, dismissing them as childish, fanciful or down right impractical. How many of you are guilty of this? And have you ever thought about what the young person thinks? Darshana Suresh, a prolific young blogger who as a “17 year old is wondering what to do in life”.  She is part of my Write Tribe  and presents her point of view in this month’s #GuestPost.

Thanks Dashy for your point of view!

 

#The Turning Point

Naive. Dependent. Diffident. That was me. The youngest in the extended family, the last person to be taken seriously. Because of course I was small, and didn’t understand the world as yet. There were so many people to show me the way, to help me take decisions, to tell me what to do. It was easy and all was well, until at some point there crawled out an urge to have a voice of my own.

When my views surfaced, disagreements popped up. I was either mad or sad, constantly wishing for them to think in my shoes. Their reasons found no meaning in my mind, my questions found no importance in theirs. In a single word they’d sum up this whole mess – ‘teenage’. And every time the word was greeted with my silent sighs.

In the rush to use my own judgements, I hadn’t realized how far I’d gotten. All too soon, there I was at the turning, all excited to leap ahead but held back by the chains of self doubt. For once it suddenly occurred to me that everything was about to change. For the first time, I’d be away from home, no more being anybody’s shadow. It was my turning point; the transition from school to college, from home to hostel.

There I stood at the turning, with one too many plans in my head that I waited so long to work on. People still said we’re so full of life and energy now, that we’d start off things with great vigour but they’d diminish with time. Yet again, they called it an ‘age’ thing. They said they were just like me once, but senses dawned on them later on. They saw the twinkle in my eyes, the passion. And they did appreciate it, but not without a shake of their heads and the words, “This too shall pass”. And for once I begin to loathe those words.

I saw that they failed to understand me again, and no amount of stamping legs or rolling eyes made a difference. I’ve finally reached where the unveiling begins, the time to explore, make mistakes aplenty and learn….all by myself. There at the turning, I hear Monica Geller’s words, “‘Welcome to the real world. It sucks. You’re gonna love it.”

I know. I know it will be tough compared to what it’s been like so far. And I also know that if you’re older and working, you’ll say this is just a piece of cake. But it is a big deal to me. I’ve always been small in their eyes, it’s time I grew up. And it’s true that they still don’t understand me. So I figured, that maybe it’s time I started understanding them.

I kept wishing they’d think in my shoes, never once did I try to think in theirs. It feels silly now to think how much I wanted from them. I understand their concern, I understand their persuasions, I understand that they wouldn’t wholly understand me. And it’s okay too. I am a work in progress, and I know where I stand. For now, that is all I need to take the next step.

We’ve all had those turning points, where what was and what will be are miles away from the other. It is a time to think and reflect, more importantly to believe in oneself. It’s okay if they don’t understand me, it’s okay if my ideas don’t click in their minds. It’s time to don my own shoes, and start building myself. In the journey ahead, my belief will be my fuel.

 

Have you been at the turning point with plans of your own that were weighed down by the others? Have you ever felt the urge to do what you want to? What I did was empathise, and hold on to my belief. What about you?

 

Darshana blogs at Wandering Wows .

Follow her on  Facebook  and Twitter  @Darshana_Suresh 

Unishta

A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!

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12 Responses

  1. Should there have been a button for super like, I would have clicked that. Brilliantly written. We all have been there where we thought nobody understands us. Dashy you know what it doesn’t get any better even when we grow up further. Even in mid 30s, there are parents, in-laws and even husband who think your thoughts are vain. They are discouraging most of the times but eventually with time one is able to develop self-belief and after this point nobody’s opinion matter much. So be what you are. Find the more of yourself. It is an unending path of self discovery.
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  2. Ramya says:

    Very nicely written Dash. You know.. i too had same feelings when i got my job or when I got married. I got new freedom to do what i like without answering to anyone. ( by the way, i was going to college from home till my bachelor’s ). Now that iam married and have a spouse who doesnt discourage me abd i started earning, i feel like Iam queen. So, enjoy your freedom, do what you love ☺
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    • Bellybytes says:

      Dear Ramya, Thanks for stopping by. I agree with you about freedom of a different kind…. BTW now that I’m married for 35 years, I have to tell soo many people where I’m going – my in laws, the maids, the grand children, all so that they know where and how to contact me in case of an emergency. So the kind of freedom you are talking about is quite short lived!

    • Dashy says:

      So glad you could understand and relate to it Ramya. And yes, I’m glad I’m staying away from home and on my own for a while. 🙂
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  3. Loved this, Dashy. I think the best learning for us is not to give advice to others unless they really ask for it.
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    • Bellybytes says:

      Thanks for stopping by Corinne. One thing I’m not sure about is who replies to the comments on the guest blog? The guest blogger or the host?

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