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Goodbye Namaste #MondayMusings

Image for Goodbye NamasteCall me old fashioned , out dated or crotchety but increasingly I am getting appalled at the lack of manners in today’s young people.

The other day we were chatting in C’s living room when I’m walked her millennial darling . The girl had just come home from a hard day at work and strolled in with headphones stuffed in her ears  and her thumbs busy on the phone . She just about looked up from here frenetic texting, held her mother’s gaze for a mere  second before marching off to her room down the corridor.

Hello! I wondered what happened to Hi aunty? After all I’d known this little one from the day she burped on my silk kurta as a colicky infant.

And I realised that this was not an aberration but par for the course. Youngsters these days are getting increasingly self centric and self centered and social graces like hello have long been given the good bye!

This kind of indifference is accepted even among those lower in the pecking order. With equality and respectful communication being the order of the day, servants are no longer called servants but helpers. No longer is it politically correct to address them by their first names/last names but they are called uncle or aunty or big brother (bhaiyya) or big sister (Didi)  even when they are all of 18 years old. But while we accord them respect, they don’t even address us as madam or memsahib. And as for a greeting of hello or Namaste – you can say Goodbye to Good Manners . They breeze past us with not so much as a nod of acknowledgement and plonk on your sofas with practiced ease.

My own daughters tell me I’m being archaic and feudal but I only feel if I accord them the equality of sitting on my sofas, surely they can say hello when they meet me isn’t it?

Do you think this is normal or am I over reacting ?

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A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!

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6 Responses

  1. Balaka Basu says:

    I absolutely agree with you. These generation have no manners. They are often plain rude and self-obsessed.

  2. You are absolutely right. I couldn’t agree with you more. I know the feeling of being treated as “invisible ” in the name of modern culture. Especially teens and their mobile usage makes me crazier than I was crazy enough during my post pregnancy.
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  3. By the way, I love your blog’s name. I have been thinking to say this for a long time.
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  4. Rajlakshmi says:

    I once got scolded for doing exactly that… I must be 11 years old then but I still remember the lesson. It’s not just you… I feel youngster should atleast acknowledge the presence of elders. And these things can be learnt only at home.

  5. Obsessivemom says:

    I agree that new age children are more self absorbed. However the parents would have to share the blame. If that young girl walked away without a hello and the mum had nothing to say, it’s not quite right.
    I did a post on something similar, you might like to drop by

    As far as maids are concerned, I do think memsahib is outdated and madam too formal for our Indian setting. However a ‘didi’ is very much in order. Also, if they don’t wish you, at least a smile of acknowledgement is expected. I think we aren’t connecting with each other as people used to, whether it is kids or maids or even neighbours living in our apartment complex. Signs of the times, perhaps.
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    • Bellybytes says:

      Oh yes. I agree. In Marathi actually, the maids have always addressed the lady of the house as Vahini or the wife of an older brother. I think this puts things in proper perspective in a way – keeps the man of the house and his wife as relatives that have to be treated with a modicum of ‘respect’ or distance. Equality has made a new equation of social interaction where indifference =equality. Yes it is a sign of the times….

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