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Where is the bride ? #MondayMusings

Life completes a full circle . I’ve now reached a stage where I attend more weddings than dinner parties. This time round it’s not my contemporaries who are getting married but their children . It’s fun seeing these once-upon-a-time toddlers walk down the aisle as it were and go round and round the holy fire.

Despite my normal reticence, I look forward to these events. It’s great to meet old friends, try exotic foods, quaff a few glasses of wine and observe new trends in society. Of late I’ve observed a strange phenomenon : NOT seeing the bride at her OWN WEDDING RECEPTION!

(At least for not as long as I was there).

It is almost a national characteristic to stretch time and arrive fashionably late to any event. Hence , if you’re invited to a function that starts at 8 pm you’d do well to show up at least half an hour later. Unfortunately, my family follows the clock to the last second and we are always ON TIME EVERY TIME.

This doesn’t really bother us and we’ve now become accustomed to being greeted by the staff who are putting the last bow in place. We’ve also become adept at merging with the walls as the hosts walk in, trying not to embarrass them with their late arrival.

Nothing, however, prepared me for this wedding season when I didn’t see the bride at all.

It’s happened at three receptions now. At the first , the bride came in an hour later than I did and mingled so seamlessly with the crowd that no one even knew she had arrived.

At yet another, the bridal couple came two hours after the parents of the groom who were hosting the party. Incidentally the parents themselves came half an hour later. Sadly, we had to leave early so we just congratulated the hosts and left the party, bridal couple unseen.

And at the third reception, the bride simply refused to show up as she had just had a raging fight with the groom and was in mood to smile and shake hands with strangers like me.

So I was happy to attend the latest wedding reception where things were done the old fashioned way : the couple stood on a podium and their parents stood alongside. It was nice to go up to the bridal couple, shake hands with the bride and groom and wish them a long, happy and prosperous wedded life!

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Did you miss me ?

Everybody needs a break. And even though it’s the beginning of the year , I’m exhausted.

In case you haven’t noticed, I’m deliberately going easy on my blogging this year.

Today, I want to see how many of you actually missed me . I’m participating in International Blog Delurking Week 2018, an initiative started by Mel of stirrup-queens. This year Parul has taken it forward and designed the badge .

I was intrigued by the concept of finding out how many people actually visit and comment and those who just lurk around and leave without leaving their mark. In the last two years that I’ve participated, no one bothered to even leave a comment.

This year, I hope some of you stop by and leave a comment.

Linking this up with #MondayMusings hosted by Corinne of everydaygyan.

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A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!

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30 Responses

  1. Dahlia says:

    Even I have been to a wedding where the bride and groom hadnt turned up by 9.30 and the invitation was for 7.30. Like you we attend weddings like we would a meeting 😀 But your last experience was really something and doesnt bode too well for their future! I loved the banner photo, colorful and mysterious making me wonder what it actually was.

    I missed you! I did really did. I checked twitter also where I rarely go and was about to mail you when I got your comment on my post 😀 Cheers!

    • Bellybytes says:

      Great! So we are now able to comment on each other’s posts too! Am happy that it finally works . Really these late arrivals at weddings are a bit much …. my stomach begins to rumble after 8 ….

  2. This post was funny with your usual Midas touch 😀 Enjoyed reading it. If there is something else which I, even after 3 years of knowing you, discovered anew today was the similarity of turning up ON TIME. I have often wondered if my punctuality is irritating to others. But thankfully (or not), when the husband is around here, we are the ones who are the last of the last to reach anywhere.
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  3. Okay, I forgot to comment on the delurking part. I am sure you know I am not a lurker. If I am blogging in a week (not on a break) then I would atleast turn up here once in that week. Hope you get more comments from lurkers this year. I have got 3 till now from lurkers and one of them really made me happy by coming out in the open.
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  4. Balaka Basu says:

    This is a funnily beautiful post. I really am thinking about the future of the third couple where the bride had a fight with the groom on the wedding day itself and actually had the audacity to not turn up at the reception. They have their whole life ahead and I wonder what is going to happen. Like you I am also punctual and often face similar embarrassments.

    • Bellybytes says:

      Yes isn’t it shocking not to turn up ? And it was equally embarrassing for the hosts that the daughter in law didn’t show up . At least we know who wears the pants in this relationship

  5. Shilpa Gupte says:

    That must have been quite a wedding reception, Sunita, with the bride not showing up at all!
    Last year, I attended a birthday party of hubby’s friend’s wife. The birthday girl turned up an hour and a half late because she had had a tiff with her hubby and what-not. The party was the worst I have been to (it was held in a pub with noise so loud, you had to scream into each other’s ears to get heard)..I didn’t even eat there..had to eat at home, at 1 a.m.!
    People..I tell you…there are all sorts out there! Not being judgemental here, but have seen such sample pieces that I can’t hold myself in check!

    And, yes, I missed you here! I have been checking WriteTribe and WP for your posts!
    Glad you are back!

    And, I am not a lurker! 😛
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  6. Rajlakshmi says:

    Really, they show up late to their own party! What in the world? Well at least you got to eat some great food and drink wine ?
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  7. Akshata says:

    Guess what in my brothers wedding last year we had a tough time . The reception was at Thane on the outskirts and all our guests were from Bombay city. They were eager to wrap up soon and leave but our dear SIL needed 2 hrs to get ready. Poor dad of mine was in a frenzy attending to people and asking them to eat first. This made me smile. Not a trend I appreciate but …
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  8. Hey Sunita…that was really a tongue in cheek version of nasty fashion at wedding these days. Wonder if it is an in thing to not honour someone’s time and presence!
    And for the delurking week…here is a hi from Canvas With Rainbow and from Team MocktailMommies! Actually we had been discussing about linking up with you for “Flavoursome Tuesdays”. Keeping fingers crossed.
    Wishing you a Happy Makar Sankranti too.

    • Bellybytes says:

      Am thrilled to know that you will be linking up for #FlavoursomeTuesdays. In order to make it less stressful we will host it on the first Tuesday of the month . And thanks also for commenting on my blogs

  9. Lata Sunil says:

    Aha weddings.. must be fun. Atleast now I am in the phase where all my friends kids are teenagers. So, we share tips on how to handle them 🙂

  10. Lady Fi says:

    It is unusual over here to have a bride who comes late to her own reception!

    Hope you feel energized soon.

  11. Priya Kumar says:

    Thanks for visiting my blog and commenting. Actually, you said it right, it has become a trend these days. Even I noticed that in my brother-in-law wedding reception. Few people left before couple came on stage. hahhaha this makes me laugh at times. Does not matter how this world is changing few things should not.

    I am really giggling on the second part how many missing you and no one commented. 🙂

  12. Aha! Some weddings to attend and socialize despite the reluctance. You know somehow, weddings bores me to death since most that I attend, I hardly know the country. I should do a post on wedding invites which I normally discard…hehe but a tongue-in-cheek and honest post.
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  13. Debbie D. says:

    I’ve never been to a wedding reception where the bride and/or groom were tardy or absent, but then, it’s been a couple of decades since the last one! It does seem a little odd. As for the couple having a raging fight on their big day, that’s sad! 🙁 It should be a happy occasion.

    Blogging has taken a back seat for several of us, it seems. “Blog Delurking Week” sounds like a good way to get back into it. 🙂 Cheers!
    Debbie D. recently posted…REAL WILD ONE (WILD CHILD) | BATTLE OF THE BANDS #BOTBMy Profile

    • Bellybytes says:

      Yes I’ve been blogged out in 2017 and agree with you about having a life beyond the blog . I do hope you are writing a book of your European school days . They sound fascinating

  14. Priya says:

    Hey I also commented but it is not shown??

  15. Rr says:

    Delightful commentary on not so delightful behavior! So fed up of these brides thinking they are celebs.

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