Everyone loves a pity party #FridayReflections

Are you a wino or a whino?

A good glass of wine adds to the flavour of the food . If it goes down well, it even improves your mood . You feel a bit fuzzy in the head which is fine if you’re not at the wheel because sometimes you need a little something that takes of  the sharp edges of life.

No, I’m not advocating the use of substances to tackle those blues or dips in your life – just suggesting that it will serve you well to occasionally share your woes with some one .

Keeping your problems to yourself can be injurious simply because you keep thinking about them all the time . A small little irritant can become a huge big boulder , like a pimple that turns into a huge festering boil. Why wait for such a thing to happen ? Just indulge in a good bout of self pity rather than brushing it under the carpet.

It’s good to vent and feel sorry for oneself. After all if you don’t feel sorry for yourself who will?

But in this wonderful pity party where you are the sole guest, you must remember that no one loves a whiner. While there are some people who love hearing out your sad stories, the fascination for your misery dies the moment it becomes a regular feature .

“It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are finished”. ~ Debbie Macomber

So how does one flush out the pity?

Unfortunately, print media is no longer fashionable but reading the Obituaries and the Agony Aunt columns was the best way to stop feeling sorry for yourself . Seeing the solemn faces of the newly departed always made me feel good about myself . Thank God I’m still alive !

Look out the window and feel happy that you are NOT out there but safely ensconced in your own little bubble.

Call up a friend who you know is going through a tough time . Being her sounding board will help her and help you realise that your life is not so bad. It also makes you realise that we all have problems .

Remember your experience is unique . Sharing it is essential.

Linking up with #FridayReflections hosted by Corinne and Shalini.

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Author: Unishta

A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!


  1. Great post to read on a Monday morning! I so agree to that, Sunita. We all need to find out whatever works for us—Vino or otherwise, because it’s so not worth carrying all that baggage around! Flushing it out is a must for me…I hate moaning even when its me who’s doing it.

  2. Every second person in my counseling centre comes with this issue of focusing so much on the sad stories of life; that they forget to be grateful for being alive and all the good things they are surrounded with…. it takes some time to help them shift their focus to what is there in life and being grateful for all that they have:)
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