Another grey Monday #MondayMusings

Today is another grey day. While I enjoy the overcast sky in the middle of the day, the ambivalent sunshine leaves me stressed –

  • Should I or should I not carry an umbrella?
  • Should I or should I not wear a sari?
  • Should I or should I not venture out at all ?

I can’t even begin to imagine the stress that Hamlet’s dilemma put him in because my concerns are more plebeian and basic. The thought of killing someone would really drive me crazy.

Though there are times when like Hamlet, I feel decidedly murderous.

Today is not one such day thankfully though I was close to axing the cook simply because she was doing the Marathi crossword while I was busy trying to get Wow Dinga and his rowdy friend to stop racing on their cars and include Ms Papaya in their game . They promptly recruited her to be their chief cook and bottle washer which proves the point that gender discrimination is innate because both boys have professional working mothers who are strident feminists to boot. So Akshata, Naba and all you feminist bloggers please note your daughters may just be allowed to join the race if they have a PINK car! Yes Ms Papaya was told that she could only race in a PINK car. At this point, I might add  that Wow Dinga in typical male fashion has commandeered both Ms. Papaya’s green tractor as well as her wobble board leaving her stranded as it were.

So why do we believe that gender discrimination is a learnt behaviour? It is not.

Talking of which, I heard very recently that the recent droughts in Kerala are the wrath of Lord Ayappa who is absolutely enraged that his peace can be disturbed by the entry of women to his sanctum. Frankly, I can’t see why women want to go to a place that does not permit them to worship. Can you imagine men insisting on attending women only functions like the Haldi before a Hindu wedding?

I think women are taking equality to a level of ridiculousness. There was a reason why they were barred from funeral ceremonies and the cremation ghat. It is all very well to break this tradition if required but this is hardly a pleasant occasion to insist on being allowed to be present. Frankly much before Namita Kaul Bhttacharya lit Atal Bihari’s pyre, I have personally attended family funerals where the daughters did this. It does not need the death of a national hero to break a tradition.

These are my thoughts this Monday which I’m sharing with Corinne at #MondayMusings.

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Do share your thoughts on gender equality and if you think it is innate or learned behaviour.

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Author: Unishta

A granny who always sees the humour in life and tries to do things differently. When others make cupcakes, this granny makes banana fritters. When she’s not busy chasing her grandchildren who love making her run around, she indulges in her passions of reading, writing, meeting friends and watching movies. And somewhere between all this she enjoys travelling and cooking!


  1. You have brought out many interesting aspects in this post Sunita. I still find it hard to believe that gender discrimination is innate. Maybe Wow Dinga and Ms Papaya have seen gender stereotypes in some form around them and hence they act as they do. My daughter Angel does it too . she is hardly 3.7 years and I catch her sometimes saying things like “Boys dont play with dolls” which was quite shocking to hear as we strive to raise her in a gender neutral environment. Wonder where she picked up that from. On prodding I got to know she heard from her older friend aged 5. So there you go, maybe this is just an instance but I do believe kids are gender neutral. Its people around who fill these ideas in their mind. About women wanting to attend a funeral or light the pyre, not the best moment to pick up a fight but if the person who passed away was someone dear then why not ? If a woman needs to raise her voice to demand something I don’t see anything wrong.

    1. No I agree with you . I have no objection and possibly my girls will light my pyre since we have no son but my point is that why should women DEMAND this .

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